Dear Me,
TGIF! Well, of course, my co-worker called in sick for the 60 millionth time this year and now my planned work agenda for the day was thrown off again (careening wildly off its axis if you ask me!) because I have to do her morning work on top of mine…and for the rest of the day I will be clawing for little windows to catch up on my own work.
*Sigh*, we’ll get by!
Love,
C
Written by a 90 year old
This is something we should all read at least once a week!!!!! Make sure you read to the end!!!!!!
Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer,
"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I've ever written.
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short – enjoy it.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words
'In five years, will this matter?'
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive but don’t forget.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have not what you need.
42. The best is yet to come...
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
Things are getting mellow at work. I’m glad.
But I’m still backlogged because of so much work the past week.
Today I was really optimistic and hoping to catch up but my co-worker called in sick again.
And I had to do her morning job.
Like I always can’t do my own job because I’m doing someone else’s.
I’m back to SQUARE [NEGATIVE] ONE.
Annoying, isn’t it?
I still have a lot of work and maybe if I push myself further, put one foot in front of the other, one at a time, maybe I will be able to accomplish everything even if I am very very very tired. It’s been such a rough and exhausting week at work (very busy + shorthanded = BAD). I actually found it hard to settle down and sleep the past few nights Yes, I pretty much passed the “tired” stage, and would just end up still too wired and trapped and drowning in a pool of adrenaline until midnight. Last night I picked up a call at home on my housephone and answered automatically with my work telephone greeting script. Now that’s a different level of tired for me. I can’t wait to rest this weekend. I’m actually excited to go back to work on Monday and finish my backlogs and have a fresh new start (because that is what’s proper and that’s what will make me function right again) but I really just need some rest ASAP. I feel so burned out that if someone taps me on my shoulder, I might break down and bawl. I’m gonna start curling under my desk and rock back and forth. Seriously.
Why am I always called to do SuperHuman duties when in fact I do not possess any SuperPowers?
For the record, this is all making me SuperExhausted…
Burning out. Big time.
I hope I get over this July hump. Oh August, I hope that you’ll be kinder to me. But this is what I always say don’t I? Some months, I pass with flying colors, some months I barely make it through without dropping a ball. Expertly like a camel through a needle’s eye. Whew!
Most months I can’t wait to hop on to the next. But the same thing happens again. Over and over. The cycle never ends.
I really need to be selfish once in a while.
I really need some ME time. BIG TIME.
Dear Ali,
I guess this letter is sort of my long overdue response to your birthday message for me last December. Time flies so fast and you know how things have a tendency to fall off the cracks in our busy lives. I have always wanted to write back anyway.
I want to make this short because I know you’re busy too so…just three things:
1. Happy Birthday. If you noticed, I posted “Paggunita – it’s that time of the year”. Because it is, it’s your special day and it’s a Remembering Ali day for me, and all the good times we’ve shared and all the good things we’ve done together. Actually, pinauso ko lang yan today. Haha, but rest assured in your future birthdays, I will also think and do things in your honor. Nox, hehe.
2. But yes, you are right when you said in your message last December that you’ve already forgotten most of our memories together (details but not the essence). That honesty is something I appreciate (because that means we’re really still friends) and it will not offend me because yes, I know and understand and totally get what you mean. Because I have also forgotten!!!!!!!!!!!!! (snippets will come in and out once in a while, and it will make me smile, like the other day Aldred and I were driving around desperately looking for somewhere to eat and I almost blurted out “Tapa King” – that being a random slip from a random memory of my Philippine life and routine, and then subsequently remembering when you and I drove all around Manila to find dinner away from my house and we ended up in Tapa King again, which was only a few blocks down). Anyway, I know that me admitting that I’ve also forgotten most of it is not a bad thing for you either. Because, yes, though it all seems like a blurry old movie now, we both know that they were really good times, and great honest-to-goodness friendship and it’s a happy place in our hearts that will forever be a source of comfort for me (especially being so far away dealing with homesickness in general while being bombarded with so many new things to adjust to). It’s like peace of mind with just the mere “thought” of it, if not the exact “memories”...
3. Through the years since we’ve lived separate lives, I still hold on to our friendship and to you being my bestfriend. I mean, yes we have our own spouses now, but it’s just really nice and fun and sort of like icing on the cake to have you there and I feel blessed that you are there to tell my other troubles and secrets to. My real worry sometimes (or fear, yes, I guess) is if there will come a time one day when we will not be able to have that kind of connection anymore (not communication…but the connection, if you know what I mean). And I’m scared. I don’t know how to describe that fear. Just the fear of maybe losing the bestfriend I’ve always had in you (not losing you altogether because I know that you’ll always be there), you get the drift? It’s that worry that one day when we talk it just wouldn’t be the same because we live two different lives, and with different joys, worries and struggles to deal with. Like I’m afraid that since you have child and I don’t (at least biologically) that I won’t be able to relate to your concerns, and me not having one that you won’t be able to relate to my own concerns. Or you being married to C* and me to A* (and they are different individuals with different personalities). Or me being here in the
That’s it, pancit! While I am always very excited for our reunions with C*, R* and A* (and the good eats involved too, of course), how I wish I can also spend maybe a day with you alone like the old times…bold thing to say but you know us…just doing the stuff we both like or perhaps, even better just hanging out and talking and catching up (I miss those conversations – kind of comes scarce for me on my side of the world). Or not saying anything at all. Well, maybe one day. Maybe not.
Haberdee.
<3 Clarisse
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Stay Young
We all need to read this one over and over -
until it becomes part of who we are!
;
HOW TO STAY YOUNG
1. Try everything twice.
On one woman's tombstone she said she wanted this epitaph:
"Tried everything twice. Loved it both times!"
2. Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down.
(Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!)
3. Keep learning:
Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever...
Never let the brain get idle. 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.'
And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!
4. Enjoy the simple things.
5. Laugh often, long and loud.
Laugh until you gasp for breath.
And if you have a friend who makes you laugh, spend lots and lots of time with HIM/HER.
6.. The tears happen:
Endure, grieve, and move on.
The only person who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. LIVE while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with what you love:
whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever..
Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health:
If it is good, preserve it.
If it is unstable, improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don't take guilt trips..
Take a trip to the mall, even to the next city, state, to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
I love you, my special friend.
11. Forgive now those who made you cry. You might not get a second chance.
And if you don't send this to at least 4 people - who cares?
But do share this with someone.
Remember! Lost time can never be found.
Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
Wine does not make you FAT ....
- it makes you LEAN .....
(Against tables, chairs, floors, walls and ugly people.)
